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You may look at some guys and think ‘it’s all right for him he’s good looking/ funny/successful’ etc….

You can’t force humour you either have it or you don’t. With your looks you might not be the best looking guy, but that doesn’t matter either as long as you keep yourself groomed well and dress well. Success is relative. Everyone has different ideas of what success means – so this isn’t something you can measure, but women are attracted to men with goals and ambitions.

But what is it about YOU women like? What makes you stand out from other guys?

27 February, 2012

So I’m out in Nottingham at the weekend in a crowded club, when a group of 3 young lads (early 20’s) approach me. One tried to pull the “I’ve got these two friends..” PUA (Pick Up Artist) routine with me. It was unnatural, he lacked confidence and it came across as uncomfortable for him and his unsure friends (wing men) behind him.

Little did they know that inside a busy club they had picked the one lady who was a dating coach and who had studied Ross Jeffries, Mystery’s and Neil Strauss’s seduction and pick up. Now what’s the chances of that?! Bless. They didn't believe me and spent the rest of the night asking the people I was with what I did for a living. Now I was at a 40th that was a friend of a friends, so truthfully they didn't actually know what I did.

16 September, 2011
Guys do you recognize when you feel this way? Here’s what happens when you consciously or sub consciously think this about your girlfriend/wife/partner…   1)   you feel angry at her for no reason 2)   you say things to put her down and make her feel bad 3)   you don’t compliment her or say anything nice 4)   you feel jealous 5)   you feel insecure 6)   you start arguments about silly things 7)   you start being ‘difficult’ 8)   you feel moody and miserable 9)   you may be prone to drinking in excess 10) you start trying to control her, making it inconvenient/impossible for her to go out without you   Can you resonate with any of the behaviours above? Here’s some food for thought…
28 August, 2011

There's a video here of me being a guinea pig for Mr Ross Jeffries :) http://www.seduction.com/ In my earlier post I discussed sleazy men, and on this short video clip Ross Jeffries shows how to sexualise with words and touch without being sleazy using basic NLP mirroring...

23 August, 2011

Too many guys focus on what they want when dating women, without thinking about what they offer and if the two compliment each other.

For example I’ve had someone who is extremely negative telling me that on their list if requirements for a woman is that they are a ‘positive person’.

07 August, 2011
It’s a problem I hear my girlfriends moan about all the time. They don’t say to me “he’s not a leader”, but ultimately this is what they mean when they say… “he never suggests anything for us to do”,  “he never makes any plans in advance to see me”. Women want excitement and adventure. Whilst spontaneous is good, making plans for the weekends and dates in advance shows a certain level of leadership and commitment (when I use the word commitment in this context I mean it as in shows you are committed to spending quality time with her and getting to know her). It’s good to have a mix of the two. But as a guy be the one who shows leadership. Even women who are independent are ultimately impressed when a guy steps up to show leadership.
01 August, 2011
Yes! I saw this tweeted the other day and it occurred to me that it is also relevant to dating. People are so focused on what they want that they forget what they have to offer, and what their value is as a human being. Think of women as your customers, ultimately they want to know when meeting a guy, what can he offer me? What’s in it for me?  
29 July, 2011


1. Peacocking (wearing an outrageous prop eg; pink tie, bright green cowboy hat) works but you have to have the confidence to back it up. The hat wasn’t a strong peacocking prop because it was a dull colour and looked non descript if it was pink, then that would have been :) 2. His lack of confidence was the first thing I noticed and he needs to build that to be able to sarge (approach and 'pull' women) successfully. This can come in a number of ways, firstly I would do sessions with Dan to find out what he believes his value to be as a human being, so he can practice his DHV’s (demonstrating higher value). You have to believe that you have something to offer the opposite sex, and from Dan’s lack of confidence his attributes need nailing first, and he needs to be aware of them, before he goes out in the field. Then I would take him out to give him a make over... clothes/style/hair. You have to look the part, because if you look the part it’s easier to act the part and he will gain some confidence from a style change. 3. To start negging (back handed compliment - I don't like these but they can work) right at the start when you haven’t made a confident approach is a big no no. Women can sense when there’s no confidence behind words. If a guy approached me the way Dan did, I’d be off on the first neg, thinking he was a weirdo. 4. He sounded insincere, which is due to lack of confidence. The whole thing was really forced and it didn’t come naturally to him. I would work with him by getting him to think about men who he admired and respected and the reasons why. Then we would analyze their success with women, and see what he could learn from them.

29 June, 2011