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Dating

So I’m out in Nottingham at the weekend in a crowded club, when a group of 3 young lads (early 20’s) approach me. One tried to pull the “I’ve got these two friends..” PUA (Pick Up Artist) routine with me. It was unnatural, he lacked confidence and it came across as uncomfortable for him and his unsure friends (wing men) behind him.

Little did they know that inside a busy club they had picked the one lady who was a dating coach and who had studied Ross Jeffries, Mystery’s and Neil Strauss’s seduction and pick up. Now what’s the chances of that?! Bless. They didn't believe me and spent the rest of the night asking the people I was with what I did for a living. Now I was at a 40th that was a friend of a friends, so truthfully they didn't actually know what I did.

16 September, 2011

Great tip here from Neil Strauss…

Things not to say to a woman…

"I don't really talk to my family."

She thinks: "This guy has intimacy issues because he's not even able to love his family!" Don't reveal negative personal baggage about yourself in the early stages of meeting a woman. Instead show her you love and take care of all of those close to you: family, friends, girlfriends, and even pets. Being a protector of your loved ones is very sexy to women.’

05 September, 2011
Guys do you recognize when you feel this way? Here’s what happens when you consciously or sub consciously think this about your girlfriend/wife/partner…   1)   you feel angry at her for no reason 2)   you say things to put her down and make her feel bad 3)   you don’t compliment her or say anything nice 4)   you feel jealous 5)   you feel insecure 6)   you start arguments about silly things 7)   you start being ‘difficult’ 8)   you feel moody and miserable 9)   you may be prone to drinking in excess 10) you start trying to control her, making it inconvenient/impossible for her to go out without you   Can you resonate with any of the behaviours above? Here’s some food for thought…
28 August, 2011

There's a video here of me being a guinea pig for Mr Ross Jeffries :) http://www.seduction.com/ In my earlier post I discussed sleazy men, and on this short video clip Ross Jeffries shows how to sexualise with words and touch without being sleazy using basic NLP mirroring...

23 August, 2011

How do you know if you’re sleazy?

1)   Do you always have to have some sort of physical contact with women when you speak to them?

2)   Do you consider it appropriate to touch a woman’s waist, bum when you speak to her?

3)   Do you make a lot of sexual innuendos and/or suggestive comments?.......

16 August, 2011

Too many guys focus on what they want when dating women, without thinking about what they offer and if the two compliment each other.

For example I’ve had someone who is extremely negative telling me that on their list if requirements for a woman is that they are a ‘positive person’.

07 August, 2011
It’s a problem I hear my girlfriends moan about all the time. They don’t say to me “he’s not a leader”, but ultimately this is what they mean when they say… “he never suggests anything for us to do”,  “he never makes any plans in advance to see me”. Women want excitement and adventure. Whilst spontaneous is good, making plans for the weekends and dates in advance shows a certain level of leadership and commitment (when I use the word commitment in this context I mean it as in shows you are committed to spending quality time with her and getting to know her). It’s good to have a mix of the two. But as a guy be the one who shows leadership. Even women who are independent are ultimately impressed when a guy steps up to show leadership.
01 August, 2011
Yes! I saw this tweeted the other day and it occurred to me that it is also relevant to dating. People are so focused on what they want that they forget what they have to offer, and what their value is as a human being. Think of women as your customers, ultimately they want to know when meeting a guy, what can he offer me? What’s in it for me?  
29 July, 2011

1)   she unintentionally caught your gaze whilst looking around

2)   she heard you and was inquisitive as to where the noise/voice came from

3)   she’s in a  good mood and smiles at you in the street, just like she smiled to others on her way past

4)   she’s on the phone and smiling at the conversation but catches your eye at the same time

5)   she’s being friendly

6)   she’s happy – she got a pay rise, got engaged, had some amazing sex the night before

7)   she’s seen you before a few times and she’s acknowledging you (like she would any person male or female)

8)   she wants something from you (help with her car? A discount at your shop?)

9)   she thought you were someone else

10)  you look interesting

11)  you have spilt food on your clothes/have a bogey up your nose/a big spot on your face

12)  she likes/dislikes the clothes you are wearing

 

I could go on but you get the jist. So what should you do?

 

25 July, 2011

I hear this dilemma from so many guys in my coaching, so I’m going to endeavor to give you some tips here.

To avoid getting into the ‘friend trap’ down the line you must when you meet a woman (whether she has a partner or not) express your interest in her initially and keep reminding her every now and then, in a non-intrusive, non-expectant way.  This can be done using mild flirtation and genuine compliments.

For example the first time you meet her you say something like “wow you look gorgeous. Who’s the lucky man who’s dating you?” You don’t want to put any pressure on a lady, but the point is she needs to know you see her in a sexual way from the start, or at least early on when you are getting to know her.

21 July, 2011
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