One gripe I have when guys ask me out on dates is if they are coming to Nottingham they ask me where to go because they “don’t know the area”.
Not good enough. I’d go so far as to say that it’s almost a deal breaker (…I did say ‘almost’ :).
Why? Because what women want is a guy who’s a leader and resourceful, shows mental strength; and that’s attractive to women.
When a lady agrees to a date, this is where your chance to impress steps up a gear – she’s waiting to see what you come up with, and looking for you to ‘show case’ your attributes and leadership skills.
Today I wanted to share with you a lovely email I received from one of my coaching clients (with his consent of course :)
Hi Rebecca,
I just wanted to email you to say thank you for such an insightful first coaching session with you. You asked me to let you how I found you and any feedback I had after our session so here it is...
After performing an initial internet search and checking the usual avenues (match.com, eharmony) I was interested in some tutorship to hone my confidence and improve my communicative ability across the board, but especially when dealing with women.
I found your site and browsed around, watching some introductory videos and reading into the services on offer, I decided that I would test the water by requesting a skype conversation with you to see where it would take me.
It worked out very well, I have seen a great deal of benefit from the advice provided during the session and have even been able to put some tips into practise! I want to talk about what helped and why, and to generally summarise the feeling I had after our session.
The thing that struck me about the conversation was how relaxed I felt talking to you. You put at ease from the get go and didn’t feel like I needed to hold back or mask my emotions. This comfort enabled me to reveal things that I wouldn’t usually speak of and therefore allowed me to start working on some personal issues that would change the way I approach a potential ‘love-interest’ scenario.
You may look at some guys and think ‘it’s all right for him he’s good looking/ funny/successful’ etc….
You can’t force humour you either have it or you don’t. With your looks you might not be the best looking guy, but that doesn’t matter either as long as you keep yourself groomed well and dress well. Success is relative. Everyone has different ideas of what success means – so this isn’t something you can measure, but women are attracted to men with goals and ambitions.
But what is it about YOU women like? What makes you stand out from other guys?
The Oxford dictionary defines being interesting as “arousing curiosity or interest; holding or catching the attention”
Being interesting is critical to your success with women.
First impressions count. What do you look like? What do people see when they look at you?