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Dating Advice for Men

‘He’s too nice’ Guys don’t understand this and assume it’s very black and white and that women like a*@ holes. Some women yes, but it's only because they haven't stumbled across an alpha male who isn't an a*@ hole. I’ve discussed why this is because bad boys have traits that women like. See my post here…. http://www.rebeccadakin.com/bad-boys-verses-nice-guys/ You can be a desirable alpha male without being an arrogant, cocky idiot. Most women want an alpha male at some level, and those that are ‘too nice’ don’t have alpha male traits so end up as ‘friends’ with women. However it’s usually a one-way friendship where the guy because he’s so nice is giving everything but getting nothing in return. He hangs on in there being walked all over, hoping that one day she will realise that he’s always been there for her and that he is the love of her life. It will never ever happen, trust me! How do you know if you’re too nice? If one or more of these below apply to you, then it’s likely women see you as ‘too nice’.
31 August, 2012
50 Shades of Grey: With all the hype about 50 Shades of Grey trilogy of books, women all over the world are fantasising over the mysterious BDSM loving Billionaire Mr Grey. Lets look at the reasons why…
16 August, 2012
The other week I had an interview with Richard E Grant for a documentary for BBC Worldwide. Now you probably think that I’m uber confident, well I am in some situations and not in others – like many people. You might be able to speak to a boardroom full of people, but then not to a lady you spot in a bar that you like.
04 July, 2012
So your dates a week away, do you call/text? And how often? It’s good to be aware of the vibe and your connection. Sometimes when people are so focused on what they want to say, or what to say next they miss the chemistry/connection or lack of it. When you are speaking focus on what the person is saying and how they are saying it, try and analyze their voice, how does it sound? Is conversation easy? Is it flowing or hard work? Does she sound, nervous, excitable, happy, friendly, bored, interested, pissed off (have you touched a nerve?), rushed (bad time?), non communicative?
30 June, 2012
Do you do the 3 day rule? Message her straight away? It’s a minefield! Lol no, seriously, if the connection is there you shouldn’t be playing games. I think to message someone within 24 hours of having their number, shows assertiveness and genuine interest. If that puts someone off, then chances are they are the game playing type, and is that what you really want? My girlfriends top ‘bug bears’ when people take their number is the text message, ‘is it ok to call?’ Or ‘when is it convenient to call?’ Guys think they are being considerate but actually they are being indecisive and it show lack of assertiveness.
28 June, 2012
One of my recent blog posts I discussed how we can’t keep doing the same things and expect different results. So what’s holding YOU back? Is it confidence? If so what are YOU doing to build it? This could be lack of confidence due to lack of experience in the bedroom, lack of confidence due to not feeling good enough, lack of confidence because of fear of rejection…. The list is endless. Confidence is one of the main things I can help you with on a One to One Session, because it’s not your lack of experience in the bedroom, or not actually being good enough, it’s your perception that this is what makes YOU undesirable, not actually what others think of you. Here’s the thing if I met a guy who was inexperienced in bed I’d think ‘great!’ Someone I can teach to be an amazing lover! Who isn’t stuck in his ways and thinks he’s great in bed when he isn’t. There’s this misconception that people that have a lot of sex must be very good at it – wrong! ......
06 June, 2012
So with so many things at our fingertips nowadays at the touch of a button on our phones and technical gadgets; emails, calls, texts, the weather report, satellite navigation, video, tv – we have all as a nation become somewhat lazy. Many people do the same thing day in and day out and wonder why their life isn’t changing and they aren’t getting what they want out of it. If you are sitting there thinking that the man/woman of your dreams will magically appear if you keep on with your day-to-day life then you could wait your whole life and it never happen!
29 May, 2012
So there's a girl sitting in a quiet bar on her own: The approach. Trust me if you go and plonk yourself down she will be cringing. I watched it happen the other day. This guy plonks himself opposite this attractive lady in a booth, sits directly opposite her ‘where are you from?’ She hadn’t finished her drink but she got up and left immediately. You might be thinking ‘how rude’ on her part. Let me explain… He had opened the door for her on the way into the pub, and because she was polite and said thank you he saw a green light that she was interested. This is not an IOI (indicator of interest) for conversation or anything else, it's just good manners. First thing to note is that this guy had clearly been in the pub for hours and was probably even irritating the bar man. A drunken man approaching a sober woman is never attractive. Second of all, it's likely she could be waiting for someone - maybe even a boyfriend. So a more subtle approach is needed to test the water......
22 May, 2012

Do you seem to always end up in relationships that make you unhappy but yet you carry on in them either hoping things get better, or because your esteem is low and you don’t want to be on your own, or because it’s easy to stay put where you are than to face up that it's not working and to end the relationship? If you resonate with any of this then deep down you think you don't deserve to be happy...

  The way to avoid this is to be aware of warning signs of incompatibility early on. You know those times when you feel really peed off about something your partner has said/done? Well most people ignore that niggly voice in their head that is saying ‘this isn’t right, he/she shouldn’t be treating/making me feel like this.’ This voice shouldn’t be ignored! It’s our sixth sense/our conscious/instinct. Generally if something doesn’t feel right - then it isn’t.
08 May, 2012
Ref: Corey Wayne – Life is Relationships http://www.understandingrelationships.com/ ‘Here’s why contacting a woman excessively when she does not quickly return your phone calls, texts, emails, messages, etc. causes her to reject you and treat you like a stalker. The calling card and hallmark of a needy guy, future abusive boyfriend or stalker is, an inability to wait for a woman to return their phone calls, texts, e-mails, messages, etc. when they have not heard from her in the time frame they expect. They fear they will get rejected just like all the women before rejected them, so they constantly do and say things that reveal they are seeking a woman’s approval by trying to make or force things to happen by contacting her excessively.’
24 April, 2012
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