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Author: Rebecca Dakin

What you have to remember is that most of what we communicate doesn’t come out of our mouth. 97% is non-verbal communication, leaving a measly 7% for our patter. With this in mind how come we get so hung up on what to say? I always feel disappointed when I hear the “my friend fancies you”. Straight away I make these assumptions about this ‘friend’ bearing in mind the fact the guy who likes me hasn’t said one word to me… I think, ‘he’s got no balls, he’s not a leader, he’s not assertive, he lacks confidence, he’s a coward, he’s immature.’
06 January, 2012
I worked with a guy in the States on his match.com dating profile. And between us we created the perfect profile… or so I thought. He came up with a great line himself that we added into his profile; it was words to this affect… ‘Looks to me are not important, what is important is that a woman has a good sense of humour and is ambitious’. When I asked him how he was getting on with his match.com profile he was very disappointed. He had a lot of interest but not interest from the type of women he wanted. Can anyone hazard a guess what sort of women would reply to an ad with this sentence in?
03 December, 2011
‘I want her back’ v’s ‘I want her to want me back’ So what’s the difference and which is best? Well the first one is about what you want, and the second is about the other person and what they want. Remember my post, (link here) stop focussing on what you want and think about what value you can give to others? This is a classic example. I had a coaching session the other week with someone who wanted his ex back. He was thinking all about himself and what he wanted and not about what she wanted. The key to her wanting him back is to listen to her and give her what she wants.
28 September, 2011

So I’m out in Nottingham at the weekend in a crowded club, when a group of 3 young lads (early 20’s) approach me. One tried to pull the “I’ve got these two friends..” PUA (Pick Up Artist) routine with me. It was unnatural, he lacked confidence and it came across as uncomfortable for him and his unsure friends (wing men) behind him.

Little did they know that inside a busy club they had picked the one lady who was a dating coach and who had studied Ross Jeffries, Mystery’s and Neil Strauss’s seduction and pick up. Now what’s the chances of that?! Bless. They didn't believe me and spent the rest of the night asking the people I was with what I did for a living. Now I was at a 40th that was a friend of a friends, so truthfully they didn't actually know what I did.

16 September, 2011

Great tip here from Neil Strauss…

Things not to say to a woman…

"I don't really talk to my family."

She thinks: "This guy has intimacy issues because he's not even able to love his family!" Don't reveal negative personal baggage about yourself in the early stages of meeting a woman. Instead show her you love and take care of all of those close to you: family, friends, girlfriends, and even pets. Being a protector of your loved ones is very sexy to women.’

05 September, 2011
Guys do you recognize when you feel this way? Here’s what happens when you consciously or sub consciously think this about your girlfriend/wife/partner…   1)   you feel angry at her for no reason 2)   you say things to put her down and make her feel bad 3)   you don’t compliment her or say anything nice 4)   you feel jealous 5)   you feel insecure 6)   you start arguments about silly things 7)   you start being ‘difficult’ 8)   you feel moody and miserable 9)   you may be prone to drinking in excess 10) you start trying to control her, making it inconvenient/impossible for her to go out without you   Can you resonate with any of the behaviours above? Here’s some food for thought…
28 August, 2011

There's a video here of me being a guinea pig for Mr Ross Jeffries :) http://www.seduction.com/ In my earlier post I discussed sleazy men, and on this short video clip Ross Jeffries shows how to sexualise with words and touch without being sleazy using basic NLP mirroring...

23 August, 2011

How do you know if you’re sleazy?

1)   Do you always have to have some sort of physical contact with women when you speak to them?

2)   Do you consider it appropriate to touch a woman’s waist, bum when you speak to her?

3)   Do you make a lot of sexual innuendos and/or suggestive comments?.......

16 August, 2011
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