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Author: Rebecca Dakin

Do you keep attracting the wrong sort of women? We all say it tongue in cheek… I attract these [insert appropriate negative people adjectives] ‘losers/crazy women/men etc… ‘ But then we baffle and wonder why, but keep doing it. It’s about taking responsibility and ownership and acknowledging these words literally. The people we attract are our responsibility. They are attracted to us because 'we' are attracting them. So what is it that we are unconciously seeking from them?...

You may look at some guys and think ‘it’s all right for him he’s good looking/ funny/successful’ etc….

You can’t force humour you either have it or you don’t. With your looks you might not be the best looking guy, but that doesn’t matter either as long as you keep yourself groomed well and dress well. Success is relative. Everyone has different ideas of what success means – so this isn’t something you can measure, but women are attracted to men with goals and ambitions.

But what is it about YOU women like? What makes you stand out from other guys?

The Oxford dictionary defines being interesting as “arousing curiosity or interest; holding or catching the attention

Being interesting is critical to your success with women.

First impressions count. What do you look like? What do people see when they look at you?

Bad boys verses nice guys: So why is it that men assume all women like bad boys? Because the bad boys actually have some of the traits women want. If they could have those traits in a nice guy then many would prefer the nice guys. Bad boys take the behaviour to the extreme so there’s a way to get a balance and be equally appealing, if not more so, to women. So nice guys listen up! There is a way to be a nice guy and get the girls if you man up on a few things. Lets look at the traits of bad boys…. So what are those traits? The first one is following on from my last post
I don’t know how many of you watch The Apprentice? I know you guys in the US may not be familiar with the show, but I want to share a powerful technique that someone used on there to collect women as potential customers for a ‘beauticians task’. In a nutshell, (for those that don’t know), The Apprentice is a bunch of people that are split into two groups and given a business task. With their team they have to create a business and make the most money to win the task and get a reward. Bear with me on this… This particular task was they had to set up a beauty parlour. In a busy shopping center one of the guys had to find clientele for the beauty shop. Being a bloke he was very unenthusiastic about the task, until he found a really cool technique that he repeatedly used to draw women into the beauticians – thus making his team the most money. What’s this got to do with dating? I hear you thinking. Well let me explain what he did. He went up to women and said “put your little finger out”, which every woman did, and then he put his finger out and linked them together, he then led them silently by their finger to the shop. Why did this work? Let me explain -
Over the past few weeks I’ve been discussing communication and conversation. I wanted to share an experience a friend had with online dating with you today. This is how a guy who had a date arranged with my friend sabotaged it within 24 hours. After a couple of messages on match.com they finally exchanged phone numbers. After a handful of text messages they arranged a time to speak.
I’ve had a couple of guys recently asking me about what to talk to women about to avoid the conversation going dry. Remember my last post highlighting that only 7% of our communication is through words? Conversation is really is not what anyone should be getting hung up on. Be careful not to talk too much. If you’re worried about conversation I would suggest it’s because you talk too much when you should be listening. Because if you’re listening you wouldn’t be worried about what to say! :) It’s one of the biggest mistakes men (and women) make; talking about themselves too much.