Bad boys verses nice guys:
So why is it that men assume all women like bad boys? Because the bad boys actually have some of the traits women want. If they could have those traits in a nice guy then many would prefer the nice guys. Bad boys take the behaviour to the extreme so there’s a way to get a balance and be equally appealing, if not more so, to women. So nice guys listen up! There is a way to be a nice guy and get the girls if you man up on a few things. Lets look at the traits of bad boys….
So what are those traits? The first one is following on from my last post…
I don’t know how many of you watchThe Apprentice? I know you guys in the US may not be familiar with the show, but I want to share a powerful technique that someone used on there to collect women as potential customers for a ‘beauticians task’.
In a nutshell, (for those that don’t know), The Apprentice is a bunch of people that are split into two groups and given a business task. With their team they have to create a business and make the most money to win the task and get a reward. Bear with me on this…
This particular task was they had to set up a beauty parlour. In a busy shopping center one of the guys had to find clientele for the beauty shop. Being a bloke he was very unenthusiastic about the task, until he found a really cool technique that he repeatedly used to draw women into the beauticians – thus making his team the most money.
What’s this got to do with dating? I hear you thinking. Well let me explain what he did. He went up to women and said “put your little finger out”, which every woman did, and then he put his finger out and linked them together, he then led them silently by their finger to the shop.
Why did this work? Let me explain -
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Remember that you don’t have to speak all the time; with the right person at the right moment there is such thing as a comfortable silence.
If one or both of you are uncomfortable with the silence you need some ‘ice breakers’. There are so many things you can say. Here’s some examples –
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1. Peacocking (wearing an outrageous prop eg; pink tie, bright green cowboy hat) works but you have to have the confidence to back it up. The hat wasn’t a strong peacocking prop because it was a dull colour and looked non descript if it was pink, then that would have been :)
2. His lack of confidence was the first thing I noticed and he needs to build that to be able to sarge (approach and 'pull' women) successfully. This can come in a number of ways, firstly I would do sessions with Dan to find out what he believes his value to be as a human being, so he can practice his DHV’s (demonstrating higher value). You have to believe that you have something to offer the opposite sex, and from Dan’s lack of confidence his attributes need nailing first, and he needs to be aware of them, before he goes out in the field. Then I would take him out to give him a make over... clothes/style/hair. You have to look the part, because if you look the part it’s easier to act the part and he will gain some confidence from a style change.
3. To start negging (back handed compliment - I don't like these but they can work) right at the start when you haven’t made a confident approach is a big no no. Women can sense when there’s no confidence behind words. If a guy approached me the way Dan did, I’d be off on the first neg, thinking he was a weirdo.
4. He sounded insincere, which is due to lack of confidence. The whole thing was really forced and it didn’t come naturally to him. I would work with him by getting him to think about men who he admired and respected and the reasons why. Then we would analyze their success with women, and see what he could learn from them.
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A man thinking with his nether region can be dangerous; Rationality and consequence go out of the window, and to be making big decisions he will not have been thinking clearly, because sex, especially in the context of an affair, will be giving him the thrill and excitement and cause major distraction. His mind will be wandering to sex even more than usual. A man thinking about extra marital sex and acting upon sexual urges has a complete lack of self-control, and shouldn’t be making any big decisions that could prove wreckless. Because the affair was in his work place, his mind may never have been 100% on the job. This isn't the case for all men, it depends on the individual - but it can happen.
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