Big Brother winner Jim Davidson – Do women today prefer Male, Sexist Chauvinists?

There’s been a lot of controversy around Jim Davidson’s Big Brother win, however I feel it was well deserved. I am definitely a Jim fan, and I’d be just as grumpy if I was being kept awake at night! I’d have loved to have been in the house with him. He was entertaining, funny, caring and a great cook.

Is this suggesting that women are realizing men have been a bit lost with their role since the rise of the alpha, female, independent woman who doesn’t need a man for money or a family, and are now taking a step back and being accepting of more traditional male values and ways?

Jim is a funny man and whilst I would consider him sexist (as is Dappy), I don’t dislike him for it. I agree with ‘some’ sexism. Men and women are different, we are built differently and as Dappy rightly pointed out, there are things that men can do better than women and visa versa. That’s not to say that there aren’t exceptions to the rule, however this is a generalization based on the fact that both our bodies and minds are different.

I myself am an independent woman, however I do appreciate old traditional values – men opening doors, men doing ‘man jobs’, lifting heavy items etc..  and whilst I have my independence I consider myself to have a healthy mix of the two; femininity and independence.

In my opinion more women now understand that men need to feel that they have a role and purpose and are negotiating a happy medium between their independence and their alpha male counterparts.

Women are realizing perhaps that although metro-sexual men like Ollie are great fun to be around and very understanding emotionally of women’s needs (they make great friends!), they simply still desire and need on a basic level an alpha male.

Bearing in mid that most of the voters/callers are women it is interesting to note the contrast with the final 5:

1)   Jim Davidson – Alpha male

2)   Dappy – Alpha male

3)   Ollie – Metrosexual

4)   Sam – Feminine

5)   Luiza – Alpha female

The top two being strong alpha males suggests that this is still what women desire and find attractive in men. It shows that being Metro sexual as a man is becoming less popular.

For the women in the top 5, femininity is more appealing and the Alpha female is on its way out at the bottom of the pile!

Even Luiza who was the strong Alpha male left in the house started to warm to Jim and accept him. I wonder how many of the viewers views changed about Jim over the series.

As the Daily Telegraph reported last month there was a big controversy when an Italian book came out titled ‘Get Married and be Submissive,’ which topped the best seller charts in both Spain and Italy, although it’s not yet translated into English.

Look also at how popular the 50 Shades series became.

These are clearly extreme examples, however I believe that now we are seeing women growing with their confidence and not feeling they have to prove they are better than men any more, therefore becoming more accepting and understanding of men.

Metrosexuals are out for 2014 and Alpha males are back in the game, with women choosing to be more feminine and less Alpha and aggressive.

This I believe will balance things out and start to produce more successful, fulfilling relationships.

Book feedback – The Girlfriend Experience

I wanted to share a lovely email I received with you from a lady who enjoyed The Girlfriend Experience…


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I’ll mention at this point that I’m not an utter cukoo… I guess I work in the adult industry aswell, although I’m not an escort. I’m a camgirl on adultwork (kinkyredhead69 – just to prove I’m not a nutter lol) but found so much inspiration from your book. I felt reading your book that I could really relate to you and we seem to have very similar personality traits.

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Celebrity Big Brother Jasmine, Lee and Casey Love Triangle

For those following the new series of Celebrity Big Brother, #CBB it’s a corker!

What a game Lee is playing the little monkey. I feel he’s clutching at straws to stay in the house because he’s up for eviction, just like all the others are. Stepping up the sexuality in the house is pure desperation.

Lee is hedonistic and we’re seeing it here on a large scale he is his own worst enemy. He is a prime candidate for drug and alcohol abuse, which I think, have been an issue in the past. It’s this recklessness that means he publically digging a big whole for himself on live television.

He’s sending mixed messages to both Casey and Jasmine I suspect to stir things up however it’s such a deep-rooted pattern he has that he does it unconsciously. He believes what he says at that moment and then it’s conveniently forgotten.

His Blue band mates think he’s playing a game and that may be so, but he needs the drama.

He’s lovable however he’s still very much a kid he needs a lot of attention because he’s a mummy’s boy possibly down to not having a male role model prominently in his life. I wonder if he is an only child…

He has said that he has ‘enough drama at home,’ this is interesting because people who have drama have it because they enjoy it and thrive off it. So without it they are out of their comfort zone.

For Lee to feel comfortable in the house he has to surround himself with drama and create it if it doesn’t exist which is exactly what he has done and he’s made sure he is bang in the middle of it.

He lives in the moment and he’s quite selfish – it’s all about what he wants at that moment, whether it’s hugs and kisses Jasmine or with Casey.

Casey gave him the exact reward he was hoping for, by being upset and speaking to him, that fed his need for drama.

He needs to feel connected to someone and he needs affection so whilst he is separated with Casey and the others are talking about him he will need to feel close to her again so he will try and turn things around with her, but only whilst they are isolated. She wants him to like her so she may lap it up, but it would be great if she told him where to get off! As soon as he’s back in the house he will be back trying to swoon Jasmine.

He keeps saying that he is sensitive yet he isn’t sensitive himself towards other people’s feelings.

I do feel for the girls being played but this is classic car crash T.V I’m sure the public will keep Lee in so he keeps on digging his monster hole.

An update based on last nights show – 10th January. He’s blaming Casey 100% for the whole situation, this is because if accepts he’s wrong and apologises the drama will end, and he needs to keep it going. To deal with her humiliation Casey is trying to be cool and step into a more sister role with him, this will be difficult for her because there is some resentment. I think she will make a bee line for Jasmine once back in the house and step up her friendship and forge an alliance with her in an attempt to alienate Lee as punishment for his bad behaviour.

Update 14th January. It seems my prediction came true, Lee and Casey were all over each other in the Bolt Hole and then back in the house he was all over Jasmine. I had thought Casey would make a bee line for Jasmine however it seems she is still disillusioned about Lee, so she’s not ready to switch sides just yet. It may happen once she realises Lee is not interested in her! If she ever realises it. Casey is too much of a good girl for Lee she won’t give him the drama he thrives on. Jasmine on the other hand is a wild one and would be able to offer him drama in the bucket loads with her feisty wrecklessness. There will be more drama to come between,  these 3.

Dappy has made up with Luisa after all the fighting because he’s feeling left out with all the loved up couples around him. He wants a lady to be affectionate towards, and Lee’s already bagged 2, and Ollie is googly eyed for Sam. Again he likes a wild one, so Luisa is an obvious choice. He may over step the mark when he’s had too much to drink like he did with Jasmine, and it will be interesting to see how Luisa reacts. She wouldn’t have engaged in the hot tub antics with Dappy alone, it was Jasmine, attempting to shock Dappy and entertaining viewers that was more of interest to her.