Dating Advice: Can I Kiss You?
Can I kiss you? You don’t ask you just do, when the mutual chemistry and desire is there. And if you get rejected - it’s her loss! This blog has been inspired by one of my girlfriends. She had been on a few dates with this guy and wasn’t sure if she fancied him but knew there was something there. He dropped a few hints about being invited in for coffee and eventually because he wasn’t sure how she felt he asked her if he could kiss her. This immediately killed the moment, and any spontaneity and made my friend feel uncomfortable. She mumbled a ‘no’ because she was so embarrassed, then he said, “Can I at least have a hug?” Awkward! She admitted that if he had been assertive enough to just go for it, she would have kissed him. To ask for permission means that you obviously don’t think it’s the right time. Guys you might think you’re coming across as ‘caring about her feelings’ and not wanting to ‘make her feel uncomfortable’ but it’s the opposite it makes someone feel uncomfortable and you come across as though you are unsure of yourself, unconfident, weak, fearful (of rejection); none of which are attractive to women.
27 February, 2013