This question is offensive because it’s implying that the person isn’t making a choice to be single, that there must be reason, and it suggests faulty goods. Those single must have been rejected, it couldn’t possibly be them who is the rejector! Perhaps it’s insecure people that ask the ‘Why are you Single?’ question?
It also suggests that as a person you need another person to complete you that you are not good enough or worthy enough as an individual entity.
I don’t believe that people are defined by their relationship status. In some respects I have more respect for the lone rangers, because so many people rely on other people for happiness, security and acceptance.
Sadly it seems more sociably acceptable to be in a toxic relationship than making the choice to be on your own.
I wonder what percentage of people are ‘making do’ in marriages and relationships of convenience or co-dependence?
I am curious as to why everyone assumes everybody wants a relationship. Certainly in British culture women are educated and trained and making a choice to have a career. They don’t need a man for financial reasons or to have a family.
Some people may choose work to be a priority, whilst others their social life, charity work, some balance a relationship with some or all of these things, everyone makes a choice, and who are we to say that everyone should conform to our own choices of lifestyle?
We live in a nation where many people are openly selfish choosing a busy lifestyle of social activities, travel with friends and hard work rather than investing time and energy in relationships and starting families. I think it is great that both men and women have the choice now how they want to prioritise their life.
Many people speculate about my love life and assume I am single or married. I always find it amusing whichever people assume as I wonder how they base their conclusion. My private life is not something I discuss and has no bearing on my job, hence I find peoples interest a curious thing.
For those that ask the “Why are you single?” question as a ‘chat up’ line, how about asking something positive instead like “If you’re single you must have an exciting life… what do you do to entertain yourself?” This is a compliment, the former an insult.
If you get asked here are some come backs for the “Why are you Single?” question (some of which are purposefully designed to deter people!):
1) I’m seeing how long I can survive being on my own
2) I haven’t found anyone good enough to be my boy/girlfriend
3) Why do you want to know? Are you asking me out?
4) Fuck buddies are far less hassle
5) Because I prefer to do what I want when I want
6) I work for MI5 – it’s not feasible to date
7) I’m finding myself
8) I have too many people wanting to date me so being single is easier than choosing
9) If I am single depends on who asks me; whether I want to be available
10) My ex died (obviously only one to use as a conversation stopper!)
11) Because I’m fussy
12)Why are you?
13) I prefer a stress free life
14) I am self sufficient
15) Relationships are sooooo last year
16) Because I keep meeting losers like you!
17) Why are you concerned?
18) I don’t like people
19) I live with my Mum and she does everything for me so I don’t need anyone else
20)I like to mingle!