10 Mar How to Satisfy Women in Bed
Closing the Orgasm Gap and Enhancing Intimacy.
Want to know how to truly satisfy women in bed? It’s not just about skill—it’s about understanding, communication, and attention to her needs.
The truth is most women don’t climax from penetration alone. They require more thoughtful, attentive, and intentional approaches.
As a sex coach I teach men in heterosexual relationships that they need to stimulate her mind and her body will follow.
Recent comments from Lily Allen about men’s lack of effort in the bedroom as she ‘slams the bedroom abilities’ of her ex’s, have sparked conversations about the orgasm gap—the difference in how often men and women reach climax during sex. Lily is not alone in feeling frustrated with the lack of effort from men.
If you want to be a better lover and make sure your partner feels fulfilled, here’s my top 5 tips.
- Spontaneous, fun, playful, moderately risqué sex keeps the spark alive in a relationship. Avoid being boring and predictable. Trying to get your end away and cum to satisfy your morning glory before you shoot off to work leaving her sexually frustrated is not an appealing option. However, ‘Dining at the Y’ for your breakfast, and teasing her with your tip, before leaving for work with her begging for more, and promising to finish what you started later, will have her grinning like a cheshire cat all day!
- Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay So important I have to say it 3 times. Foreplay starts outside of the bedroom, it starts with a suggestion, a hint of what’s to come. It could be a whisper in her ear, a note in her bag or a saucy text. Build it up throughout the day. Request she sends a racy photo from the bathroom at work, or text her what you’re planning to do. Don’t underestimate how you can get her vulva pulsing and vagina dripping wet using your words. Of course, actual physical foreplay needs your full attention too (at least 30-45 minutes if you really want to reap the rewards!)
- Orgasm Denial Take the lead there is nothing hotter than a man taking control of his female partner’s orgasm. It helps take the pressure off both parties too, when the focus is on delaying instead of reaching. Use edging to take her to the edge of orgasm, and back down again. This enhances and intensifies orgasm for her and leads to endless waves of pleasure and euphoria. When she’s a sweaty, hot frustrated mess she will be begging you to penetrate her.
- Explore the different types of female orgasm A penis is not the holy grail of sexual pleasure. Toys, lips, tongues, hands and fingers should all come into play when experimenting. Some women have nipple orgasms through sucking, touch or using clamps or suction toys. The G spot orgasm is best achieved using probing fingers massaging the area. The skin is our biggest organ, so make sure you tantalise and stimulate her whole body not just her erogenous zones and you may find she has a skin orgasm! If your kissing is good enough you may be able to induce a mouth orgasm.
- Utilise the senses to create anticipation Whether it’s using a blindfold or a tie and tease. Taking the lead and thinking about arousing all her senses will stimulate her from every orifice. Whispering or blowing in her ear, while some sensual music plays in the background, while massaging her with essential oils or a fragranced bubble bath, as she sips a glass of fizz and indulges in her favourite chocolates in candlelight or mood lighting will all help her relax into the mood.
I am a sex coach with over 20 years-experience in the sex industry, if you want to explore how working with a coach can help you satisfy women then you can arrange a call with me here: https://calendly.com/rebeccadakin/30-minute-clarity-call
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Article here > https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/33740743/lily-allen-lashes-out-david-harbour-slams-bedroom-abilities/