10 Jan 10 Tips for better Sex. Make 2025 Sexplosive with these raunchy resolutions….
10 Tips for better Sex. Make 2025 Sexplosive with these raunchy resolutions….
One of the biggest complaints I hear from my clients as a sex coach is that sex has become boring and predictable. I’m here to share some of the tips for better sex I recommend in my Sex Tips book.
- Spontaneity. As we age and/or get into a long-term relationship we can often fall into patterns and routines of familiarity and predictability. Grabbing those unexpected small windows of opportunities, even if just for a quicky, will help you keep sex exciting and increase libido.
- Discuss and explore fantasies. With an open non-judgmental ear as cliché as it sounds, it genuinely is a way to bring an element of excitement into sexy time. It’s important to note that fantasy is not real life and doesn’t mean that someone is fantasising about wanting to do these things for real, meaning there really are no limits to getting off on talking about fantasies and role playing consensually.
- Extended Foreplay. Skilled foreplay starts outside of the bedroom, with a flirty note, or text, with a promise or tease of what’s to come. Invite her to communicate how she likes it and what she wants and explore every curve and crevice (consensually) with the interest of a keen marine biologist discovering a new sea species or organism.
- Edging and orgasm denial. Make your partner wait. Edging increases arousal, builds intimate connection, enhances orgasm, leading to extended sensual sensations. The anticipation of playful denial can lead to explosive mutually satisfying love making sessions.
- Dry humping. Don’t underestimate this technique many of us did a lot of as teenagers. Whether you’re spooning watching tv or washing the dishes, or straddling them on the bed, extended rubbing through clothes can get you off, especially the seams of jeans and underwear. Can you make each other orgasm using friction, without getting naked?
- Watch some ethical porn. If you find your libido is lacking, then watching some porn or reading a raunchy novel can help get you going. Websites like https://www.frolicme.com/ are female led and cover all bases whether you get aroused by listening, reading or watching.
- Try arm pit sex. Yes, you read that right! Sex should be fun, exploratory and unpredictable! Get a good whiff of his armpits (without deodorant, however relatively fresh) as that’s where the pheromones are abundant, and once that gets you going, invite him to penetrate your arm pits or any other join, or roll you can make a tight fit for a penis. Squeeze a bit of lube and giggle your way into this one.
- Switch roles for initiation. If it’s always you that initiates, agree to switch roles and see how it feels. If that feels weird, then that’s a good thing! If you feel too uncomfortable to be forward agree some subtle ways to initiate e.g. leaving a particular type of underwear on the bed, or use a code phrase e.g. ‘I’m going to freshen up’.
- Dip the tip. The vagina opening is full of nerve endings that often get bypassed when the focus is on deeper penetration. Whether using a penis or toy try and explore the shallower intimate sensations of the vagina. Remember the G spot is only 1-2 inches inside the vagina on the front wall. The longer you can hold off going full penetration the more she will be begging and pleading for it. Make her wait, for explosive results.
- Try a new sex position! The Serpents Embrace is an easy position to try. The receiving partner lies on their stomach with a pillow placed under their hips to elevate them slightly. Their legs remain straight and slightly apart, while their arms can rest comfortably in front or alongside their body. The giving partner positions themselves on top, using their forearms to support their weight.
So here’s my top tips for better sex in 2025. And if you want more… you can get your own personally signed copy of my book here….