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Following my ‘5 Step formula for the perfect Dating Profile’ (this will be broken down on my blog over the coming weeks, but can be seen in it’s entirety in 5 separate posts here) , I will analyze two match.com profiles below.

My 5 Step formula:

1)    Photos, smiling, clear 3 minimum – face, full body and action
2)    Introduction – opening gambit
3)    What you offer
4)    What you are looking for
5)    Invitation to connect

This week’s Positive Profile –

For Uk Match.com members: http://uk.match.com/

Username: piggum_66 Greater London

 I could never be a pessimist! It wouldn’t work anyway!

Hi everyone, I am an intelligent, yet impulsive guy looking for a partner to share my feelings and thoughts. I am educated, patient, confident about myself, trustworthy and handsome (at least I think so!).I have the capacity to make people laugh and surprise them. I love going for scenic walks, cycling and horse riding. I am looking for a funny, responsible and kind woman to share my life.
I have been a police officer for twenty four years now and have not taken one day off sick (what a mug!)

Lets break it down to cover my 5 step Formula

1)    This guys photos his profile is a smiling head shot, and his other photos are all smiling head shots. He looks friendly and genuine. My only criticism would be that it would be nice to see a full body photo, and a photo of him doing something interesting out and about.

2)    Introduction (what’s visible with his profile photo I.e his first sentence). I could never be a pessimist! It wouldn’t work anyway! Hi everyone, I am an intelligent, yet impulsive guy looking for’ His first sentence shows he has a good sense of humour and he’s got in a little there of what he offers – spontaneity and intelligence.

3)    Aside from the sentence above which acts as an intro and part of what he offers, he follows on to say, ‘. I am educated, patient, confident about myself, trustworthy and handsome (at least I think so!).I have the capacity to make people laugh and surprise them. I love going for scenic walks, cycling and horse riding.’ This sentence oozes confidence and we know that this is a key attraction trait for women. GSOH is pretty high on the list of things a woman wants. I’m not sure about the ‘police officer’ sentence, I’m undecided whether it’s positive or not. He’s not talking about how passionate he is about his job, even though he doesn’t have a day off. He could hate it! Many people stay in a job for years that they despise. It seems a tad out of place, like it’s been added as an after thought. Although one thing it does show is commitment, and it implies he wouldn’t have any qualms about committing in other areas of his life.

4)    What he is looking for, ‘I am looking for a funny, responsible and kind woman to share my life.‘ It’s brief but he does specify.

5)    Invitation to connect: There isn’t one which is  shame. It doesn’t have to be long it could be something short like; ‘thanks for reading my profile if you think we might have something in common please send me message or a wink’. This would have finished this profile off nicely.

Yes the profile is brief but it’s inviting, and he comes across as sincere.

I’d give it an 6 out of 10.

 

This week’s Pants Profile –

For Uk Match.com members: http://uk.match.com/

Username: Mr_Right_4_Sum1 – Derbyshire

Come on ladies i ain;t hard to find

Ok here goes… I’m generally a nice pleasant well mannered guy but no pushover, i’m a fun guy n can say their arn’t any dull moments in my life, ii’m very open minded and will try anything once or twice. I love chatting and meeting new people so don’t be shy come say hello…

Unemployed currently as was made redundant but worked as a 999 operator for the last 8 yrs

1)    This guy has 5 photographs. One of his cat one of a field with a house in the distance and 3 self taken photos with the arm stretch technique. The cat photo is ok, as it’s obviously his pet, but the self-portraits are terrible. He’s not smiling in any of them, and he looks mean and moody and a little cocky. It’s not a good look. I can’t stress this enough. Never use self-portraits!

2)    His intro is – ‘Come on ladies i ain;t hard to find

Ok here goes… I’m generally a nice pleasant well mannered guy but no pushover, i’m’ The grammar/spelling and slang show a lack of education/intelligence, which isn’t an attractive trait. If he’s dyslexic it is no excuse! Get a friend to check it, or use Microsoft Word – that would be the intelligent thing to do. Also ‘I’m no pushover’ is a negative thing to say – you don’t say what you’re not – only what you are.

3)    What does he offer? He says he’s nice, pleasant well mannered guy. Nice isn’t an adjective that is interesting. Nice is boring, nice is ‘nice’, nice is non-descript. Well mannered is a positive thing and he loves to talk and meet new people, suggesting he doesn’t lack social skills, but I’m dubious because of the brief, unimaginative wording in his profile. ‘Unemployed currently as was made redundant but worked as a 999 operator for the last 8 yrs’, how is this going to interest women? How is he going to be able to take them out on dates? I don’t mean to be harsh because times are hard at the moment, but there is a positive way to say that you don’t have a job; but only if you have ambition and from this statement, he doesn’t. So if you didn’t have a job you could say something like – ‘I’m in between jobs at the moment. I worked for a 999 operator for the past 8 years and I was passionate my job, but I’m seeking new challenges now.’

4)    What is he looking for? No clue whatsoever.

5)    Invitation to connect – ‘I love chatting and meeting new people so don’t be shy come say hello…’ This bit is probably the only thing that’s good about his profile.

It’s unlikely this guy will have had any dates or responses to his ad. He may have had a few bored women briefly ‘chat’ to him.

I’d give it a 1 out of 10

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