Whilst some relationships are flourishing with couples spending more time together and bonding over finding new hobbies without the distractions of family and friends, others are being tested to the limits.

Relate recently did a survey and these are some of their findings…

  • More than one in eight people surveyed who currently live with their partner (12%) is having relationship doubts after staying at home– rising to one in five (21%) for 25-34-year-olds.
  • Almost a quarter of surveyed Brits who have a partner (23%) say the current circumstances are placing pressure on their relationship.
  • 27% of respondents in a relationship are finding their partner irritating right now (22% of men compared to 31% of women).
  • Almost a quarter (24%) of surveyed parents who currently live with their children say their children’s behaviour has become an issue since staying at home.
  • Relate anticipates a post-lockdown peak in enquiries but urges people to consider webcam or telephone counselling before a crisis hits.

Patience, understanding and communication are key during these challenging times. Here are 10 Tips you can try as a couple and family to keep your relationship solid…

  1. Communicate your feelings whilst trying to avoid blame and unite to find solutions rather than being defensive
  2. Clear the air every night before bed, and acknowledge anything positive about the day
  3. Intimacy is really important right now. It helps people feel valued, connected, loved. Holding hands, kissing, affection in front of kids is just as important and private time
  4. If you need to take time out or clear your head, go for a walk/jog on your own
  5. Keep connected to friends and family through FaceTime and Zoom
  6. Try and avoid drinking to excess. It won’t help you deal with any problems if anything it can make things worse
  7. Instead of both watching tv or getting absorbed in social media do something interactive together: a game, puzzle, cards
  8. Talk about and plan for the future. Time away, any goals individually or as a couple/family
  9. Make mealtimes a time to communicate and bond 
  10. Go to bed at the same time as your partner talk be affectionate/intimate and avoid looking at your phones.

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