Inspired by the TV Show First dates this blog is designed to give you an easy guide on how to end up with one of 5 results below on your first date…

  1. Shag ‘em and bag ‘em – First Date, sex, then never to be seen again
  2. Date n’ Ditch – First date, then quick escape
  3. Fun ‘n Cum – First date then … party hard both out and in the bedroom
  4. Great but Mate – First date to Friend Zone Fast
  5. Oo potential Boo – First date, second date and maybe third… and, how’s your father?

So depending on what you want your end result to be here’s what you do….

  • Making overtly sexual comments, making every mouthful of food look like porn, lip biting more than Anastasia Steele are all things that will put you in the Shag ‘em and Bag em’ zone.
  • Talking about ex’s, both deceased and alive! Poor Olive was a dear, however clearly living in the past, not wanting to move on and carrying hurt from her loss. It was heart breaking to watch. Going on a first date isn’t the time to expose any self-pity, heart break or talk failed relationships! Unless you want to ‘Date n Ditch’
  • Those guys/girls that are ordering doubles and shots are most likely to be up for a bit of ‘Fun ‘n Cum’. They will party with you until the early doors and you might get lucky at the end of it, if you’re both not too squiffy.
  • Friend zoneGreat but Mate’ is an easy one. Be none descript and ‘nice’. Be unsure of yourself, lack confidence, try too hard, over compliment, struggle to make conversation but be polite, or be over keen when the sexual attraction isn’t mutual will put you in the F zone quicker than you can say ‘fanny flutter’
  • There’s often got to be an initial mutual sexual attraction, so look out for signs that this is the case, how he/she responds to flirting. If there isn’t interest on the other side, act disinterested and you might be able to turn things around. Build a connection through rapport and discovering common interests. If you make your date feel good they will most likely want to see you again! Most importantly have fun, relax and if you want ‘Ooo potential Booavoid all of the above 1-4!

On a serious note if you want to explore how I can assist you with dating maybe you keep attracting the wrong guys/girls, or perhaps you can’t keep them, maybe your confidence is getting in the way of you finding love, or perhaps you are struggling to let go of hurt from a past relationship or heal from infidelity. I can help with these things and much more! If you get in touch, I will show you how. I look forward to hearing from you!


Fanny Flutter

First Dates