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Santa’s naughty list – Adult gift ideas & Stocking Fillers

If you’re over 18 then the only list you wanna be on this Christmas is Santa’s naughty list!

I’ve been gathering and testing new products this week for my boutique, and there’s some very exciting new toys and sexy stuff.

Here are my 12 days of Christmas, 12 gift ideas for those who enjoy some adult fun.

Christmas is an extremely stressful time of year, so it is super important to make sure that you keep up the intimacy, flirting and sex going when you get the opportunity. Sex is a stress buster! And if you’re single this Christmas then there is no reason why you shouldn’t be having lots of fun too 😉

If you want to get your hands on any of the products I have mentioned in the video then contact me today as i’m back at the warehouse Thursday 15th picking up more orders.

Vibrators, books, games, love potions, lubes and bondage bits have all made my top 12 naughty gift ideas. Watch the video to find out more and find out about your special Christmas offer 🙂

 

5 Tips Stop Your Husband Cheating

Brad and Angelina affair. 5 of my Top Tips to Ways to stop your husband cheating

Brad and Angelina affair. 5 of my Top Tips to Ways to stop your husband cheating

In light of Brads alleged affair I was inspired to post…

Infidelity is sadly rife in many marriages and relationships today, and with the consistent reports of cheating celebrities and sports stars, it’s almost considered the norm.

Here are my top Five Tips to stop your husband straying:

1) Be aware of any changing dynamics in the relationship and make sure communication channels are open.

Are you growing apart? Has sex become infrequent or non-existent? Are you no longer physically attracted to your partner? Are you rejecting his advances? Is he rejecting yours? If you feel any of these things, your marriage is in the danger zone! Burying your head in the sand is not the way to deal with things. As long as you are aware and addressing issues as they arise, you should be able to keep your marriage on track. Always communicate in a positive, open way and be willing to compromise.

If he tries to address worries or concerns with the relationship, listen to him and don’t get defensive — otherwise he may not communicate in the future and just go and cheat.

The thing is that men are clumsy and they are not natural communicators like women, so cut him some slack and try not to take what he says literally. If he thinks you’ll fly off the handle he won’t bother again. Listen to him and try to find solutions for his concerns. That way he will be encouraged to communicate more often and will be less likely to cheat.

Communication is a two-way street and you both have to be open to it and encourage it — not avoid it.

2) Don’t forget the flirty little things that you can do even when the kids are home: little strokes, kisses, touches and squeezes.

These intimate gestures don’t take a lot of time and effort but they are the things that you will notice couples in love doing. They help to keep the connection, which in turn will minimize the risk of him straying.

Men are visual so don’t forget the teasing views you can give him; for example if he loves your breasts, try a low-cut top. Perhaps you’re in the kitchen and need to bend down and happen to be wearing a short dressing gown or nightdress. Flirting should be fun and exciting. If his eyes are on you, then he won’t be looking elsewhere!

3) If possible, be spontaneous with lovemaking and have fun exploring sexual fantasies and desires.

I do understand that it is difficult when you have children and busy lives, but if you can make things spontaneous when the moment arises it is priceless. He will be thinking about you at work and throughout his day. He’s unlikely to be noticing other women when he has spontaneous sex. Instead of making excuses when the rare opportunity arises, just go for it! It will probably make you feel better too. After all, headaches are cured with a good orgasm, so it’s not a valid excuse for avoiding sex. Spontaneous doesn’t mean you have to make it about him; it’s a huge turn on for men when you use their body for your own gratification.

Talk to your partner about his desires and fantasies and see if there’s a way you are comfortable accommodating them in some capacity. Experiment with your own fantasies.

4) Be confident in who you are as a person and know your values. Don’t allow yourself to be a push over. Demand respect.

Many guys cheat simply because they are allowed to. A serial cheat doesn’t respect women and never will. I know people want to stay together for their children, but what sort of example is set when the kids see their mother accepting infidelity in the marriage? Even if you think you are hiding things well, children pick up on the vibes. They know whether they have parents that are a team or if they despise or just put up with each other. If it is the latter, they see that there is no affection. Think about how your actions and choices will affect their future relationships.

5) Make sure that you make quality time for just the two of you.

Having children doesn’t mean that you should neglect your marriage; you both need to find time to work on your marriage and keep the connection. After all, your marriage is the foundation for your family — your roots, so to speak.

Try to find a way to have some sort of date night at least once every couple of weeks — a night where you get sitters or take the kids to stay with relatives and do something fun, relaxing or romantic just the two of you.

You both need quality time together and it’s imperative that you find it somehow. Don’t make excuses as to why you can’t, because if you think you can’t then you can’t. Be the glass-half-full person, realize the importance and think, “how can I make time?” Then you will start to come up with solutions.

I can help stop him cheating….

101 sex tips to stop him cheating

101 sex tips to stop him cheating

Check out my new sex tips Book 101 Sex Tips – A Guide To Pleasing Your Man, available now, get your signed copy from my Boutique, just click the tab on my home page 🙂 

Am I infertile? Lets Bring Awareness to Sexual Health Week

With the lack of sex education, teenage pregnancies and STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases) on the rise there has never been a more important time to raise awareness about sexual health.

If you are sexually active then you need to make sure you visit the clinic for G.U. Medicine and ensure you are not carrying any transmittable diseases. Firstly not all STD’s have symptoms, so don’t think you don’t have to go if you don’t have any. You can catch diseases both orally and via the penis, anus and vagina.

The simple solution is use condoms! Always. The only time it may be ok not to use them is if you are in a long term, relationship, you 100% trust your partner and you both get the all clear before you enter into sexual activity. However you can never 100% guarentee fidelity. The most important thing is to be aware of STD’s and periodically check yourself out at the clinic for peace of mind.

As a teenager I had regular promiscous sex from the ages of 15-20, and I was constantly back and forth to the clinic with Chlamydia. Childless at 41 I often wonder if I made myself infertile (which is one of the long term risks of STD’s).

I’m giving away FREE condoms with all orders from my Boutique in support of Sexual Health Week. Just click the Boutique tab on the menu to see what’s on offer.

 

Giveaway – Free Signed Book Copies 101 Sex Tips & Ways to Please Your Man

The time has come! Finally my new sex tips book is out and available to buy from my Sexpert Boutique (and all good book shops :). However you may want to get your hands on a free one… and why wouldn’t you??

I’m giving away 5 signed copies, watch my video to find out what you need to do to be one of those 5 lucky people to get their hands on the very first copies of my book!

I’ve been sharing my tips and sex advice for years,  via my first book The Girlfriend Experience, some via my blog and social media however I have now collated my tips on sexually pleasing men in one book. This book is all about how to please your man, can you guess what my next one will be? I haven’t forgotten you ladies don’t worry. I know men need guidance too on how to please women.

Inspired by The Great British Bake Off GBBO I mix cake, sex and tea, in this sex tips book with a difference.

 

5 Tips to make sure your partner doesn’t cheat at the Office Party

Don’t put your relationship unecessarily at risk this festive season. There are things you can do to make sure your partner is thinking about you, and rushing home to see you rather than cavorting with the lady/guy they fancy in the office. Infidelity proof your relationship today so you don’t become one of the statistics for the New Year break up season. Find out how here…

 

Why as an ex escort I can help you with your love and sex life

I went to a very interesting seminar the other weekend by Andy Harrington, who got me thinking about ‘my why’. Why I do what I do, and what drives me to work as a Sexpert and help people with their relationships and sex lives?

It’s something I had never considered before. My background is I went from convent school, to glamour modelling, peep show and then escorting, then subsequently Author and Sexpert.

I learnt alot about men during my time as an escort and all about what men really want, however as a woman I understood why they weren’t getting what they wanted, because I know equally what women want, and it all boils down to connection, communication and compromise.

It is my mission to ensure everyone has a mutually satisfying love and sex life, so they avoid infidelity and being miserable in relationships.

Watch my video to find an exclusive offer available to you today!

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Infidelity Expert opinion on the Ashley Maddison Hacking

In the wake of the Ashley Maddison hacking scandal, is it a case of ‘what goes around comes around’ or an invasion of privacy as personal as the world having access to our most private phone conversations or online chats?

Who are we to judge those that choose to be unfaithful? There could be all sorts of reasons people choose to be unfaithful and from experience I know that infidelity isn’t black and white.

Is it up to someone to take the role of judge and jury and expose the cheats in monogamous relationships? Which let’s face it is about money, and a threat driven by a mixture of greed and bitterness I suspect. Surely they are just as bad as the cheaters themselves for hacking into and using the information as blackmail? We create our own energy and karma and those individuals cheating, and those seeking to destroy relationships by exposing the members if this website are doing exactly that.

Whilst I broadly don’t agree with infidelity, I also disagree with those conforming to monogamy when it is clearly not for them. We live in a society where we have choice in the British culture and whilst other types of relationships may be frowned upon by our closest family members and friends, ultimately honesty is the best way in a relationship.

I have seen a rise in younger twenty something’s choosing to have open relationships and actually they are some of the most stable, loving, honest and lasting relationships I have encountered. An open relationship isn’t about being in a relationship without trust – it is one based on implicit trust, and one where the terms of the relationship around any extra parties n the relationship are predetermined and agreed before hand. They are relationships that acknowledge that monogamy can be challenging and difficult and feel it’s ok to love one person but still want to explore their sexuality and have intimacy and fun with others. Then there’s polyamory where people choose to love more than one person on a deep level. There really is a relationship style to suit everyone.

Ashley Maddison however is a website broadly used and advertised for people who cheat for thrills, those that are insecure and wouldn’t want their husband/wife or partner to cheat but feel that they are entitled to have their cake and eat it.