Dating advice for Men – Do what you Have Always Done and You Will get What you Have Always Got

So with so many things at our fingertips nowadays at the touch of a button on our phones and technical gadgets; emails, calls, texts, the weather report, satellite navigation, video, tv – we have all as a nation become somewhat lazy.

Many people do the same thing day in and day out and wonder why their life isn’t changing and they aren’t getting what they want out of it.

If you are sitting there thinking that the man/woman of your dreams will magically appear if you keep on with your day-to-day life then you could wait your whole life and it never happen!

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Married Couple have Sex Only 3 times a Year

Last weeks Grazia magazine had an article about a couple (Mark and Kirsty) who only have sex 3 times a year because they are so stressed about their lack of money.

I was deeply concerned at the reference that this is ‘normal’ for couples in there 30’s.

Mark and Kirsty’s marriage is in complete crisis and they both seem oblivious. They seem content (in my opinion – naïve) with the fact that they assume that everything will be back on track once they have money.

I understand and empathise that they have deep financial worries however it’s no excuse to lose their intimacy and connection.

They still eat because they need to survive, they still look after their son, because he needs to survive too, but they also need intimacy for their relationship to survive so why have they let it go in times of such dire crisis? This is when it’s needed the most!….

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How to Approach The Single Girl on her own in a Bar

So there’s a girl sitting in a quiet bar on her own:

The approach. Trust me if you go and plonk yourself down she will be cringing. I watched it happen the other day. This guy plonks himself opposite this attractive lady in a booth, sits directly opposite her ‘where are you from?’ She hadn’t finished her drink but she got up and left immediately.

You might be thinking ‘how rude’ on her part. Let me explain… He had opened the door for her on the way into the pub, and because she was polite and said thank you he saw a green light that she was interested. This is not an IOI (indicator of interest) for conversation or anything else, it’s just good manners.

First thing to note is that this guy had clearly been in the pub for hours and was probably even irritating the bar man. A drunken man approaching a sober woman is never attractive.

Second of all, it’s likely she could be waiting for someone – maybe even a boyfriend. So a more subtle approach is needed to test the water……

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Do you Always End up in The Wrong Relationships? Learn to Recognise the Warning Signs Early On

Do you seem to always end up in relationships that make you unhappy but yet you carry on in them either hoping things get better, or because your esteem is low and you don’t want to be on your own, or because it’s easy to stay put where you are than to face up that it’s not working and to end the relationship? If you resonate with any of this then deep down you think you don’t deserve to be happy…

 

The way to avoid this is to be aware of warning signs of incompatibility early on.

You know those times when you feel really peed off about something your partner has said/done? Well most people ignore that niggly voice in their head that is saying ‘this isn’t right, he/she shouldn’t be treating/making me feel like this.’

This voice shouldn’t be ignored! It’s our sixth sense/our conscious/instinct. Generally if something doesn’t feel right – then it isn’t.

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