Watching Take me Out The Gossip and cringing, I felt compelled to write a blog post. I’m going to observe a couple of contrasting couples.
Jack and Lizz.
http://www.itv.com/takemeout/the-gossip (video link)
Although Jack is a very likable chap this is a classic example about how guys are 5 years behind in maturity years. They are both 19 but she’s much more mature than him. He’s never been on a date and it’s so obvious bless him. He lacks self-awareness and is completely in his own little bubble. He obviousy thought he could just ‘wing it’ on his Take me Out Date at the Isle of Fernandos. Sadly that’s not the way to make any progress with ladies. Poor lad has a lot to learn, but he doesn’t realise it. His boyish charm may have worked if he’d been more self aware, and aware of how she was feeling.
His table manners were atrocious and didn’t show a good upbringing – I’m guessing he’s an only child. Women don’t want a guy who will embarrass her in public… we have Dad’s and little brothers for that. Women are looking for a guy who can have fun and entertain them, but one that also knows how to behave when it’s appropriate.
Lizz expected to be the one not interested because he’s immature, but when he acted dismissive towards her she was perturbed. It’s the classic push pull PUA technique. I referenced this in my blog post about Russell Brand building sexual attraction in 5 minutes. See it here. Sadly Jack ‘pushed’ too much. If he’d been all over her she wouldn’t have been interested, however because he wasn’t giving her attention she craved it. I think he suspected that he didn’t have a chance and so ignored her and was oblivious to the fact that he had turned things around. In the video in the back ground you can see her trying to get involved and him blatantly ignoring her.
Now lets look at the other extreme. Here’s what happens when you ‘pull’ too much.