‘I want her back’ v’s ‘I want her to want me back’
So what’s the difference and which is best?
Well the first one is about what you want, and the second is about the other person and what they want.
Remember my post, (link here) stop focussing on what you want and think about what value you can give to others?
This is a classic example. I had a coaching session the other week with someone who wanted his ex back.
He was thinking all about himself and what he wanted and not about what she wanted. The key to her wanting him back is to listen to her and give her what she wants.